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Did you know that where you are today is a reflection of your daily habits? Every move you make either moves you closer to your life’s ultimate design or it moves you away from your life’s ultimate design.

This is where setting goals comes into play.

It’s funny because for a number of years, I thought I was creating awesome goals but after going through Life Coach training, I realized that all I was creating was a “to do” list. And the more I “accomplished”, the more I thought I was progressing in the direction of my goals. I couldn’t have been more wrong!

In this post I want to provide you with the basics of setting clearly defined goals that move you toward the life you have designed for yourself.

Your Goals Should Be SMART
Specific – determine exactly what you want
Measurable – they move you forward
Attainable – achievable but make you stretch
Realistic – don’t set yourself up for failure
Timely – date specific

You Should Set
Short-term goals(daily and weekly)
Mid-term goals(monthly and quarterly)
Long-term goals(1, 2, 5 years)

How to Set Goals
Ultimately, you want to set a total of 3 big goals each week. And each of these goals will have at least 3 actions steps. When you do this consistently week after week, you will move yourself forward in ways you can’t imagine.
Goal: What is the ultimate outcome

Obstacle: What is stopping you

Date: Set the date you want to achieve this goal

Action Step 1: What 1st step can you take to overcome the obstacle and achieve your goal.
Action Step 2: What 2nd step can you take to overcome the obstacle and achieve your goal.
Action Step 3: What 3rd step can you take to overcome the obstacle and achieve your goal.

When you evaluate your goals each week, you should ask yourself the following questions:
1) Is there anything I’d like to improve or do better?
2) Is there anything I learned that can help me reach any of my goals?
3) What went well this past week?
4) What made me happiest?
5) Did anything during the week make me unhappy or didn’t go as well for me as I had hoped?

Some final tips on goal setting:

• Be clear on goals
• Organize into an action plan.
• Take action.
• Resolve to do something every day to move your business forward.
• Plan every day.
• Apply 80/20 rule to everything.

And remember that at the heart of all this is a dream – the WHY that will keep you going. Are you willing to pay the price for success? Nothing great comes for free. Desire, discipline and drive has to come from within.

You need to determine what you want, decide what you are willing to sacrifice/reschedule, associate with people that will help you get what you want , have a plan of action and WORK the plan.

Remember that small goals achieved repeatedly add up to big dreams fulfilled. Take the time to clearly define where you are going in your journey. Where will YOU be this time next year?
Remember to leave your comments and share with others!

Ellen

You can learn new things at any time in your life if you’re willing to be a beginner. If you actually learn to like being a beginner, the whole world opens up to you. ~ Barbara Sher

Joy is not in things; it is in us. ~Richard Wagner

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I cannot believe the news on Arbonne. I learned yesterday that the company has filed for Chapter 11 bankruptcy.

I was an RVP with Arbonne but decided to leave the business in the fall of 2008 because I knew Arbonne was out of momentum and things didn’t feel right.

One of the big “selling points” for Arbonne was that the company was debt-free. I am absolutely SHOCKED that the company is in over $800 million in debt($500 million was originally reported).If Arbonne actually comes out of this (many companies do not), they will have another $120 million in debt and be owned 85% by the banks that are carrying that debt and the company borrowed another $20 million more as part of this deal.

There are a few lessons to be learned from this. First of all, be smart. You should never believe everything you hear. We have to do our due diligence when choosing a company to represent and continue to know what’s going on with the company we represent. Second, take Seth Godin’s advice and know when to stick and when to quit. Arbonne has had a tremendous run and has created significant wealth for many but it’s time has passed.

Because of issues like this, now more than ever it is incredibly important to always have your income diversified so if something happens to one source of your income, your world won’t be turned upside down.

My heart goes out to all the consultants that have trusted this company with their future. This is a major blow to them, their families and their future. They will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Ellen

I want to start out this post by giving you a quote from “The Butterfly Effect” from www.simpletruths.com as it really summarizes the point of this post.

“When you know that everything matters – that every move counts as much as any other – you will begin living a life of permanent purpose. A life of permanent purpose will make you a better parent, a better spouse, and a more valuable friend. Your productivity and financial success will soar to new heights while the old days of uncertainty, doubt, and depression fade into the past.”

Do you know what your permanent purpose in life is? Have you written out your life’s design? Are you living a life consistent with your life’s design?

I thought I was living my life consistent with my design but I wasn’t. Fortunately for me, my good friend Pam Hartley introduced me to a very special woman, Audrey Cavenecia from Her Turning Point. Audrey is a coach, speaker and entrepreneur and has coached Pam for many years. Pam knew Audrey would be a good fit for me to get me past what was “stopping me”. Her Turning Point is a series of exercises that causes a profound alteration allowing you to finally and fully become uniquely you.

Pam and Audrey both made me realize that I was taking on too many projects and too much responsibility and not focusing enough time on what was going to ultimately allow me to live the design that I have created for my life. WOW! This really hit home with me and made me realize that I needed to make some serious changes in my life. The most important of those changes is learning to say “No” and feeling really good about it! If the person/opportunity/etc. doesn’t move me closer to “my life’s design” then it moves me further away and I have to say “no”.

Does this story hit home with you? If so, I would encourage you to do what I did and take some time to figure out your life’s design. What are you here for? What types of relationships will you have? How will you spend your days and with whom? What is your ultimate outcome for your life? Here is a small excerpt from MY Life’s Design to get you started…..

“We have created a 6 figure monthly residual income through network marketing that allows us to spend our days as we wish. We work together in our business to continue to grow and help others. We put the kids on/off the bus every day, we volunteer at school, we volunteer in the community, we pursue our hobbies both together and individually. We make a significant financial impact on those in need and spend time helping them learn to be financially independent. Our family is fit, healthy and happy because we eat healthy food and exercise regularly. Our life is full of peace, joy and overall success!”

You can learn more about Audrey at http://www.herturningpoint.com. I highly recommend her coaching! Please tell her that I referred you!

I would strongly encourage you to spend some time on this and get focused. Get laser focused on creating your ultimate life. When you do, you will reap rewards far greater than you could ever imagine.

I would love for you to drop a comment about this post!

Ellen

With greater confidence in yourself and your abilities, you will set bigger goals and make bigger plans and commit yourself to achieving objectives that today you only dream about. ~ Brian Tracy

“The human race has only one really effective weapon, and that is laughter. The moment it arises, all your irritations and resentments slip away and the sunny spirit takes their place.”  Mark Twain

The Laughter Movie

2009 has come and gone and if you are like me, you are taking a good look at where you are in many aspects of your life. Did you progress and achieve your goals in 2009 or are you still stuck in the same place wondering where the year went?

My friends, it’s the beginning of a new year and a new decade. And you do not have a day to waste! Let me say that again – You do not have a day to waste!!! You can use 2010 as a pivotal year to change your life IF you choose to do it.

The most important thing you have to do is make sure you have a dream in your heart that will make you unstoppable. Does your dream(or why) get you out of bed in the morning and make you want to do everything it takes to get it? You have to go after your goals like your life depends on it. And you have to have an attitude that no one and nothing is going to stop you.

But unfortunately, most people fall into a cycle – they get fired up about a business deal or an opportunity, they engage like crazy, things get a little tough and when they hear a few no’s, and they are out. They completely disengage.

Is this you? Do you have a habit of engaging when times are good and disengaging when times get tough? If you are planning on achieving greatness in your life, quite frankly, you’ve got to be prepared to get your butt kicked. Please know that do achieve anything great, you are going to have to get out from behind that invisible fence and get really uncomfortable! If you aren’t uncomfortable, you aren’t growing. And remember, that it is ok to fail as long as you are failing forward.

Are you willing to pay the price for success? Nothing great comes for free. Desire, discipline and drive has to come from within.

Check out this Will Smith video and make a commitment to become UNSTOPPABLE IN 2010!!

So are YOU committed? If so, leave a comment below and let me know!

Ellen

Will YOU do what it takes to be #1?